Notes on Jealousy & Envy: Taming the Green-Eyed Monster

Sunday, 21 January 2018

It was during a sermon about three days ago that the topic of 'Jealousy and Envy' came up.
This green-eyed monster can eat deep into the soul if we allow it, and it wouldn't leave you alone if you don't find a means to show it who's boss. It will chew you up and spit you out, again and again.

I'm using the word 'tame' which translates into 'to make...powerless, easier to control'. This is because I see envy as part of our human nature. We get a little envious from time to time and this form is harmless and normal even.
I have realized that envy is a funny thing. It makes you forget who you are as well as your own goals and then slowly turns your attention towards this other person, figure or thing that you are so angry towards. This person, figure or thing that you want to become so bad that you've developed subtle or a full-blown hatred in your heart towards.
Ultimately, envy is a silly waste of time. I mean think about it, what's the point? It wouldn't change anything. Think of how much more productive you'll be if that energy was channelled into actually focusing on yourself?
If you feel this way sometimes, it's perfectly normal. The negativity can pull you in and drain you. Here's how you can snatch the power from this green-eyed monster and take control of your life.

Don't fight it, accept it
Psychologists often say that fighting negative thoughts actually makes them harder to disappear. Most of these thoughts aren't actually real. Just like clouds hovering in the sky, they'll pass. Sure. Sometimes the mind can seem like a horrible place, your thoughts can even be embarrassing or scary. But don't be too hard on yourself, you're not alone. Stop holding on to this negative thought, it just makes it worse. Accept that this is the cloud of thought hovering through the skies of your mind. Accept that it's not real and let it float away. It's easier said than done, but I assure it does help.

Get occupied
I'm sure everyone and their grandmother has heard the saying "The idle mind is the devil's workshop". It's been said so many times that it has almost lost it's meaning. But this quote is literally the truth. I found that at moments where I'm fully focused on myself or a project, I have zero care about whatever is going on around me. Keeping oneself occupied really doesn't allow room for much jealousy because you're directing your energy towards bettering yourself and not getting worried that Mr A bought a brand new Porsche and you're still here jumping keke.

Unfollow on social media
I know, I know, this can seem a bit harsh, but trust me it does help. It's so easy to get distracted by what we see on Instagram or other social media platforms. You may not even notice but this feeling of insecurity may subconsciously be the root cause of your jealousy or envy. You may even find that you are comparing yourself to others and their achievements. It's not a thing of weakness, even the most secure person has their bad days. So by all means, hit that unfollow button to protect your mental health.

Be inspired
Just like I mentioned earlier, harmless envy is part of our human nature and it can be channelled into something more productive! Why not draw inspiration from this person or thing? In this case, you're winning on both sides. This is because you're appreciating what this person has to offer, you're happy for them and instead of developing hatred, you're getting some inspiration in order to better your own life!

Have a great, envy-free week ahead.
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10 comments on "Notes on Jealousy & Envy: Taming the Green-Eyed Monster"
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  3. The bitter truth, idleness attracts alot of all these other things we do not need. Keep it up

  4. The bitter truth. Idleness attracts all these other energy that we do not need. Keep it up

  5. A these tips especially the first one are so helpful and true. Sometimes we try ro fight it and i really believe acceptance is better.
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    1. I'm so happy you found this helpful! I agree, thanks lovely x

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